Many millennials lament that their children are falling behind academically. Yet, they observe that on the flip side/the other hand, the children of their helpers, their nannies and their gardeners are excelling, are better adjusted, and are well-mannered. Some millennials are already learning some notable parenting practices from their employees. You see, some of these employees learned their successful parenting practices from their parents who are successful baby boomers.
In fact, the children of these employees are completing school, advancing in other higher studies, advancing in their chosen fields of work, finding their right places in society and becoming stable citizens.
Please note, I did not mention specific professions because I am aware that one’s job/vocation may be anywhere, and it could be any honorable thing. I also know that many successful persons were only able to achieve primary school level education.
In a previous blog post, I redefined the term ‘absentee parent’. I observed that in many cases, parents are physically present at home, yet they are also ‘missing-in-action’ regarding supporting their children with homework, teaching them values and preparing them to find their places as responsible and accountable citizens in the world.
On my retirement journey, I am observing many young parents who are physically present yet psychologically, spiritually and emotionally absent. I observe many millennials working twelve and fourteen-hour days. I also observe that many millennials are excelling in their professions and many of their children are being neglected. Many children are falling behind at school while their parents, bearing flattering titles, are climbing up the corporate ladder.
Can you correct this trend? Yes, you can! Indeed, yes, we can! Millennials – you can excel at work and you can also excel at home if you engage the extended family some more. Look at your extended family. Your parents may be retirees with available time and resources to share with your families. Invite them into your world.
Below, you will find a few suggestions, and I believe they are easily implementable. Have fun implementing!
- Try to spend ‘quality time’ with your children. Practice telling stories and sharing jokes. Find time for a little laughter.
- Share meals together and enjoy conversations while doing so.
- Supervise homework and/or get some help with the supervision of the home work. Ensure that the children complete their homework and that the homework is handed in on time.
- If your child is falling behind, get some help. You may be required to pay for some of this help, but help is available.
- Teach children good ‘old time’ manners.
- Discipline your children.
- Reward your children
- Incentivize some everyday tasks.
- Know your children’s friends.
- Know some more about your children’s social media activities and be willing to offer some suggestions if you observe a negative and destructive trend.
- Set a good example for your children.
In my blog posts, I aim to be reasonable, practical, nonjudgmental and kind.
Talk soon……. Claire Spence